Handling Our Sexuality

gonna start this morning by showing you another little video clip it runs about
seven minutes it is called "Making It Real". Take a look at this. Nicole, what I'm
trying to say? "Yes"? "Dummit". Sorry. Nicole, I always thought I wanted to wait
to have sex until I was married, but until I met you, it was easy to wait because
I guess I've never really been in love before but now waiting it's not just
some idea it's real because I know I felt the same way. I guess what I'm trying to
say is the other night in the tree house it was amazing. It was incredible. It was
really nice but maybe... I feel I wanted you to and and if you had tried I
probably would have led you. I'm glad we didn't. You are? Yeah. I scared myself. I
wasn't thinking about what we were doing or I think all all I knew is that I
wanted more. Well, I wasn't exactly analyzing the situation either. When I was 12 my
dad took me on my first date. I had dressed up in my best dress and I wore some
of my mother's jewelry. I even got to put on a little bit of makeup and my dad
took me to the nicest restaurant in the city and he let me order whatever I
wanted to off the menu. It was a good time. We laughed a lot. We talked a lot.
My dad told me that the man who treated me with respect and dignity would win
my heart and he gave me this necklace as a symbol of the commitment between him
and me and God that I wouldn't have sex until I was married. Since the treehouse
I've been doing a lot of thinking and I think I finally understand what my
father meant. He was trying to say that my love for someone, my physical love,
should be worth something. That I am somebody's future wife and what a gift it
would be to share that experience for the first time together. So what do you
think? I think your future husband better be quite a guy. Oh, so now what do we do?
You mean don't do, don't you? Right. What'd you say? Well, I think we're just
gonna have to be a lot more careful. Be more careful. How do we do that? I just
think there are some things that we shouldn't do together anymore. Oh, you mean
like homework? Yeah, because algebra really gets me go. Oh yeah, and all those
numbers. Let me start thinking about your numbers. Stop that. What? We can't touch
any more. I didn't say that. I didn't say that. I just, I think we should at
least agree to keep our clothes on. Well, yeah, I guess I'd actually help me out a
lot. Yeah, me too. You know, up in that treehouse, I didn't plan for things to
get so out of hand just everything kind of took its course and I'm I'm thinking
there must be some way we can stop that from happening next time. I mean I
like being romantic and all. Phil, if we don't want this to happen again, we need to
avoid certain situations where they're more likely to happen. Like, like if my
parents are out of town for the weekend, I probably won't be having you over
for roast beef. Oh, oh, I love this. Yeah, I guess that makes sense of that. Okay, so we keep our
clothes on. I'm a little more careful about the time we spend together. You know,
a part of me really doesn't want to be doing this. I know. But at the same time. Yeah,
yeah. I guess if we're gonna be doing this, I need to make one more rule for
myself. Okay. More showers. More showers. Cold showers. Cool. Yeah. So does that
actually work? You know, I don't know. I haven't you know, I haven't had to
really use it until now. But I'll let you know. Okay. So guys, take cold showers.
Why do girls do the same thing? No, no, no, no, no. Nope. We do something much, much
more effective. Oh, yeah. And what's that? We fantasize about what? About you know. What?
I don't believe this. I can't. All I have to do is imagine you with yellow teeth and
bad breath and body odor and man, I'm completely cool. Alright, I wonder if it's the same
we thought guys is is with girls. Okay. Okay, let me think. I'm Nicole with yellow teeth,
and body odor. Nope, sorry, doesn't hurt for me. Oh, guys are so good. Oh, we are. Oh, yeah.
I show you that clip this morning for two reasons. Number one, because it illustrates, I think,
the power of sexual temptation. And number two, it illustrates the need for concrete action
steps if we are going to resist the power of that temptation. Now, that having been said,
I don't know about you, but I don't think those two kids are going to last very long if
you consider they're romping around. I think, you know, part of the difficulty with sexual
temptation is that it's very difficult to go back to a previous state of a relationship.
If you're used to having sex together, it's hard to go back to just kissing. If you
use the kissing, it's very hard to go back to holding hands. Well, what it does illustrate
all the more for that reason is the drastic action that we need to take if we are going
to remain sexually pure in the face of incredible temptation. And drastic action steps is what
Jesus counsels us here in Matthew chapter 5, as he continues to expand on his understanding
of the seventh commandment, you shall not commit adultery. Listen again to how he puts it,
if your right eye causes you to sin, gouge it out and throw it away. It's better for
you to lose one part of your body than for your whole body to be thrown into hell. And
if your right hand causes you to sin, cut it off and throw it away. It is better for
you to lose one part of your body than for your whole body to go into hell. And as we
take some time this morning to look at those couple of verses a little more closely, I
want us to make three observations. Observation number one, unchecked sexual desire can be highly
destructive. Unchecked sexual desire can be highly destructive. Listen again to the words
of Jesus in verses 29 and verse 30. He repeats it. It's better for you to lose one part
of your body than for your whole body to go into hell. Sexual sin, sexual desire has
the ability to destroy our lives not only in the here and now, but for all eternity. Think
of all the young women whose lives are forever altered because of an unwanted pregnancy.
Think of all the young men who have fathered children out of wedlock who have no ability
or intention to look after those children. Think of all the families that have been hurt,
the lies that have been broken, the hearts that have been shattered because somebody couldn't
keep his pants on and somebody violated the marriage covenant. I remember a number of
years ago I was at an airplane and there was a young lad on that plane. I would guess
he was probably eight or nine, clearly a child who was being shuttle back and forth between
parents that were either separated or divorced. I have never in my life heard or seen a young
boy of that age wailed the way that he wailed obviously torn apart because he had to leave
one parent and go back to the other. I remember sitting in that plane a couple of rows removed
from him, I think maybe one or two across the aisle saying to myself, "Lord God, come
the day of judgment. Somebody is going to be held accountable because of the pain they
have caused in this child's life. Add all the HIV cases that exist in the world and
all the sexually transmitted diseases and you begin to get some picture of what happens
when the fire of sexual desire is not limited to the fireplace but is spread out everywhere
and burns down the house." That's only talking about the here and now. That's not even
talking about the future because the Bible says, "sexual sin particularly, as is true
for all other sins, but sexual sin particularly brings forth the judgment of God. Don't let
anybody deceive you," says the Apostle Paul with empty words, "For because of such things,
God's wrath comes on all those who are disobedient and elsewhere the Apostle Paul says, those
who do such things, referring among other things to sexual sins, those who do such things,
will not inherit the kingdom of God." Here's the question then. What is it about
sexual desire and sexual sin that gives it such unprecedented power? Let's scripture
warns us as strongly as it does. Well, I think the reason is that our sexuality encompasses
the sum total of who we are. It engages us first of all physically. Let us to say we
have physical desires that are sexual in nature. Probably safe to say that next to hunger
and thirst, our desire for sexual expression is one of the strongest desires that we
have in our bodies. And God's made us that way. And He's made us that way so that the
human race will procreate and reproduce. I mean if there were no strong sexual desire considering
the challenges of the sexes getting along with each other otherwise, the human race would
die out real fast. Don't you think? So it's probably good that that attraction is there
down just a little bit on the sound, George, if you please. And so God gives us that desire
and it's a wonderful thing, but it's a double edged sword because it can easily be turned
against us and can lead to huge destruction. It not only engages us physically but it also
engages us emotionally. Sex isn't just two bodies coming together. It is also two souls
being reunited in the creation story of Adam and Eve. God creates Adam. Eve is created
out of Adam's body, presented back to him. And the Bible says that that's the drawing force
that brings men and women back into mutual attraction. There is something inside us that
is looking for soul completion, a soul mate with whom we can share our hearts, with whom
we can share our feelings, with whom we can share our desires. And so that longing,
that longing for completion is part of what drives the sexual revolution. How many people
aren't there who throw their values out the window simply because they want to be seen,
they want to be heard and they want to be understood. And then of course there's also
the spiritual component. The sex drive engages us not only physically and emotionally,
but it also makes us one in spirit. And whenever we become one in spirit, the spiritual powers
of the universe are keenly interested in and involved in our lives. And so the spiritual
hosts of wickedness are constantly at work trying to get us bonded spiritually to something
and somebody other than God. So you're own all of these powers together. The physical,
the emotional, and the spiritual. And you can see that unless it is controlled by the
power of God's Holy Spirit, it spreads like wildfire and it can lead to the destruction,
not only of individuals and families. In fact, if you study history, it can lead to the
destruction and the decline of whole civilizations. Let the fire get out of the fireplace and its
tendency will be to consume the whole house because you cannot control it any longer.
So unchecked sexual desire can be highly destructive and because it can be highly destructive,
it requires drastic action on all our parts to control it. Notice again how Jesus puts
it verse 29, "If your right eye causes you to sin, gouge it out and throw it away." And
if your right hand causes you to see it, cut it off and throw it away. Now that's incredibly
strong language because in biblical culture, your right eye and your right hand were the
most important parts of your body. Without your right eye, you could not, if you are right
handed, shoot an arrow. Without your right hand, if you are right handed, you can draw a sword
or otherwise engage the enemy. And so in biblical thought, protecting your right eye and protecting
your right hand are high values. And along comes Jesus. And he says, "Listen, when it comes
to sexual temptation, whatever part of you that contributes to that, even if it is your
right eye or your right hand, he says you don't fool around with it, you cut it off." In other
words, whatever it is that stands in the way of righteous Christian leaving in the area
of our sexuality, he says, "You've got to take drastic measures, you've got to cut it
out because it is better to go through life with your right eye missing and your right
hand missing than for your whole life to be destroyed by the power of sin." Now very specifically
then, and practically speaking, it means this. First of all, we are to keep a tight lid on
our sexual desires. Paul puts it this way, he says, "Let each of us behave decently,
as in the daytime, not in orgies and drunkenness, not in sexual immorality and debauchery, not
in dissension and jealousy. Rather, clothe yourselves with the Lord Jesus Christ and do not think
about how to gratify the desires of the sinful nature." The desires of the sinful nature
there are our human desires, including the desire for sexuality. And outside of and apart
from Christ, our tendency is to be led by our physical desires. We cater to them, we encourage
them, we feed them always thinking that we can keep them under control. And the Bible
says that once we've come to Christ, we recognize that we are no longer to be led by our desires,
and we are to be led by the Holy Spirit. And so we are to put on the Lord Jesus and not
make provision for the desires of the flesh. Practically speaking, then what that means
is that when our flesh stirs up and we are inclined to look places where we ought not
to look, we are inclined to let our eyes wander in places where they ought not to wander
and to think thoughts which are contrary to what Scripture says. We don't sit there
and play around with it, hoping how much it is that we can get away with. We nip it in
the bud by the power of Jesus, because natural and good, though our sexual desires are,
like all our other passions, they need to be controlled by the Holy Spirit. Self-control
is the fruit of the Holy Spirit. And not only must we exercise that kind of self-control
outside of marriage, it also needs to be exercised inside marriage, because you see the
whole purpose of marriage is to give of yourself for the blessing of your spouse. And there
is a huge difference between having sex and making love. And one of the tragedies of
this day and age and one of the consequences, I think, of the prevalence of pornography
is that marriage for some people becomes the expression of lust rather than love. And
because people see images and they see practices that they had never thought of or never approved
of, there are people, men in particular, but some women too, who bring these into relationship.
And what they do is they push the boundaries of propriety in terms of their partner's
life and before you know it, people are defiled and wounded in their spirit. Because they
haven't been ministered to you, they have been taken from. And to take from your partner
in marriage is just as bad before God as to be on the prowl outside of marriage and see
how much seducing you can do. We need to keep a tight lid on our sexual desires and we need
to avoid provocative material and provocative places. Here's how Scripture puts it. Jesus'
ostentation to sin is sure to come but woe to him by whom they come. It would be better for him
if a millstone were hung around his neck and he were cast into the sea than that he should cause
one of these little ones to sin take heed to yourselves. Never before in the history of the human
race have we had such ready access to sexual imagery and sexual power. I mean it used to be that
if you wanted to satisfy your curiosity you had to go spy out an naked woman or an naked man
someplace. Or you had to put your trench coat on and go to the local triple X rated theater and
hope nobody saw you. That was enough to shame most people. But now we've got the internet.
We've got cable television. We've got video on demand and what used to one day be out there.
We now are able to pipe into our homes and unusually strong you have to be.
To be able to resist the temptation to satisfy your curiosity and find out what is really happening.
Do you know that the greatest users of pornography in today's society are 12 to 17 year olds but
it's not limited to them. There are over 400 million web pages dedicated to porn today. Most of them
accessible by a single click. The average age at which kids get into pornography these days is
11 years of age and nine out of 10 kids who surf the web have run into pornography often unwanted
or unsolicited because they've clicked on some link. And the days are long past when you can
trust the government to protect you and frankly the days are long past when you can even expect
your parents to protect you. And so if we want to remain sexually pure in a day and age where
all this stuff is coming at us in the privacy of our hearts and homes it means that we have to
establish pretty clear boundaries in our own lives and we have to get rid of everything and anything.
That's going to pull us away from serving the Lord Jesus. That means avoiding images,
that stir up things that cannot be legitimately satisfied. It means if need be we could rid of our
cable television or our internet connection or anything else that feeds our pleasure
and that ties into our addiction and that's particularly true if we don't know how else to
control that. You know somebody says well I can't do that. I would die without my internet
connection or I would die without my cable television. Well how do you think it feels to have
your eye gouge dap or your right hand cut off. And Jesus says if you value your soul and if you
value your spiritual walk with God then whatever it is in your life that gets in the way of being
fully devoted to Jesus get rid of it and get rid of it now. So a number of years ago in our house
we decided we'd get rid of cable television and that was before channel 40 was part of the basic
tier that you can buy into and those of you that watch that channel will know what I'm talking about.
Television without borders and it's piped into our hearts and and most of us you see here's
the deception of it we say to ourselves I can handle this I know where I can draw the limits
but you know the nature of temptation is that by the time you wake up to its deception your dead
it's like the frog on the stove you turn the temperature up gradually his body is heating up
doesn't know what is happening and before he realizes it he he fries to death because
his senses have been dulled and I want to tell you something our senses have been dulled even as
Christians how many of us are even remotely exercised by what we see experience or feel compared to
10 years ago or 15 years ago or 20 years ago tell me am I being too hard on us or am I telling you
the truth and it's as true for me as it is for you or anybody folks unless your fire has gone out
and that can happen but unless your fire has gone out it takes drastic action to limit it to the
fireplace and to not let it burn down the whole house don't let anybody fool use a scripture
it is because of these things the judgment of God comes upon the human race so we need to keep
it tightly on our sexual desires we need to avoid provocative material and the places that stir
it up and then we need to cut off ruthlessly all illicit relationships that includes first of all
all sexual relationships outside of a marriage commitment scripture is categorical on this even
though our day and age smiles at it and wants to throw it away the book of Hebrews 13 4
marriage should be honored by all and the marriage bed kept pure for God will judge the adulterer
and all this sexually immoral now one of the very interesting things in today's society
among a lot of our teens is the notion that oral sex is not sex and what it does is it enables
people to preserve their sense of I am pure and have not engaged in sexual relations not
understanding that it like everything else falls under the biblical category of being sexually
immoral sexuality is a wonderful gift it is so wonderful that God wants it to exist within the
safety of a marriage relationship and only a marriage relationship because outside of that we do
damage not only to ourselves but we do damage to others and I want to tell you something I have
heard countless confessions in the years of my ministry where any number of people have cross
lines and violated biblical norms and I yet have to meet somebody who said you know I'm glad
I broke the commandment because it made a better man or a better woman out of me we can see in
but we cannot avoid the regret and we cannot avoid the shame human sexuality is an incredibly
complicated thing and human sexual relationships are a finely tuned instrument that can only
prosper under the safety of God's provision it also means that we cut off emotional attachments
that are inappropriate know what to be very carefully here because there are emotional attachments
that are good and healthy there are kid places in our lives where we are awakened by a father
or a mother type figure that are good and healthy and proper and that are necessary for us to
come to life and that are safe and secure that's not what I'm talking about but I'm talking about
those adult places where my spouse doesn't understand me or where my spouse irritates me or my
spouse is just hard to get along with and so I begin confiding in my coworker I begin confiding in
most cases a member of the opposite sex sometimes in this day and age person of the same sex
and I develop emotional confidential relationships that begin to take the place
of my primary relationship at home now listen to me real careful
because we live in a day and age where opposite genders are constantly being thrown together
at work at church out in the world I mean used to be the men would sit in church over here the
women would sit in church over there that's really going back ways used to be you know a man's job
was over here and a woman's job was over here now we have male and female police officers cruising
around in the same car we have men and women firefighting together and and most of us work in
situations where we are constantly rubbing shoulders with members of the opposite sex that's
not all bad and you can't just you know lay down the law and say well I'm not going to interact
with any member of the opposite sex and and become rigid and law bound in this it is good and
healthy in many instances to have friendships that go across gender lines but how do you know
when you're crossing a line well here's the key if you are beginning to confide things to your
friend that you cannot confide to your spouse or if you find yourself in a situation where there
are things about a relationship that you have with somebody else that you have to hide from your
spouse then even as a Christian be very careful because if you haven't already crossed the line
you're very close to crossing it I've never met anybody who set out wanting to commit adultery
and break their marriage vows but I've met a lot of people who were in careful and whose hearts
became enmeshed whose sail was set to catch the wind and then all it took was for powerful
feelings to emerge and strong feelings to kick in particularly in those places where we don't
feel loved where we don't feel understood where where we want more than what we get at and before
you know it the mightiest ship goes under in the storm because the power of sexuality can make you
do things that you'd swore you never would do I mean if I think back over the years the people
that have made vows to chastity the people that have said this will never happen to me
and then to watch them go down when the strong winds hit I can tell you the truth of scripture when it
says that anybody who thinks that he stand be careful lest he fall we all need God's grace
and we need to be ruthless and identifying those places of our lives where our hearts
in wrong ways belong to wrong people and we need to cut them off and yes that hurts but so does
gouging out your eye and so does cutting off your right hand and Jesus as is better to go through
life missing those parts of your life than to be headed to temporary temporal and eternal
destruction so unchecked sexual desire can be highly destructive it requires drastic action
to control it and the third observation I want to make is that we need to learn to concentrate
on the positive what is the best way to keep weeds from growing in your lawn
well it's to grow a good crop of grass what's the best way to control our sexuality and
our sexual desires well it's to concentrate positively on those things in life that God is calling
us to and practically that means this it means first of all that we are to focus on our
purpose in life think back with me for a minute to King David and the illicit relationship the
adulterer's affair that he had with Beth Sheba how did he get into trouble well he didn't have
enough to do it was the time of spring when kings go to war but he had sent Joab and Yeraya to go
fight the battles and he was at home wandering around on the roof of his palace not knowing what to
do that's what he spied Beth Sheba and that's what started that whole sorted episode and I'm willing
to bet this warning that if you look at your life even as I look at my life when are the times
when we are most prone to temptation when we don't have enough to do when we're bored when we
have no focus in life particularly when feelings of emptiness inadequacy confusion overcome us
isn't it true it's in moments like that especially when we're looking for comfort that our minds
begin to wander we know the websites to go to we know the videos to watch we might know the
bed to hopping to because somehow or another we're trying to fill up on the inside what is empty
and broken now when that happens as it does to all of us periodically we need to find out where
that brokenness is coming from we need to get the healing that we need to feel that place because
I tell you you can make as many vows as you want as any addict does but without healing in
that place the hunger will come back again and again and again and you will end up plunging
into places and things that you cannot believe that you could ever fall into and nobody
is immune we need to focus on our purpose in life and we ought to make ourselves
accountable now one of the most interesting websites in this regard is a website called
triple x church dot palm it gets 84 85,000 hits a month because everybody thinks it's a Christian
porn site and everybody's trying to figure out how do these two things go together so they go
and check it out well triple x church dot palm is in fact a website that is run by people who feel
they have a calling to the porn industry and to those who suffer from sexual addiction
so matter of fact what this team does is they go to most of the significant porn conventions
in North America and I think that would take putting on the armor of God a little bit wouldn't you
but they go there to hand out bibles and they'll hand out 2,000 3,000 bibles at one of these
conventions and they engage the men and the women who are part of the industry in conversation
and you can read their website in the testimonials of peoples whose lives have been changed
but one of the software packages that they're really pushing is a software package calls x3 watch
and it's an accountability software package it keeps track of all the sites you visit
and then it emails your accountability partner with where you've been
and that helps curb the desire to go places where you ought not to go
now understand that nobody can stop you from going where you want to go or fooling any system
that you try to put in place I mean the human heart's ability to deceive even itself is just
incredible but if you're the kind of person who really struggles with that issue and wants to be
clear and righteous and holy before God that's certainly one way to learn to place yourself
in an accountability situation better yet surround yourself with brothers and sisters in Christ
with whom you can share your struggles with whom you can share your joys with whom you can
pray about the issues that bind our hearts see to think with any kind of addiction but particularly
sexual addiction is that it fills us with shame and whatever fills us with shame makes things go
underground because it is underground where it gains its power and what God wants to do in the church
is to create a sense of hey listen we're in this thing together where men and women boys and girls
we are sexual human beings nobody can say that he's never been tempted if not in that area
then some other area and part in knowing the forgiveness of Jesus part in knowing the resurrection
power of Jesus is knowing that there is no sin too big there is no shame too deep but when it
comes to the light we can give it to Jesus and we can receive restoration and we can receive healing
short of that the chances of victory in these areas are next to Nile the whole self-help movement
AA and all the you know anonymous types of groups that have come into being have illustrated
very clearly and very powerfully that it's only in confession only in bringing things out in
the light that God's power can move and we can receive restoration and healing we need to focus
on our purpose in life we need to make ourselves accountable and then of course we need to cultivate
healthy relationships and cultivating healthy relationships means that if you're married you work
at your marriage you try to address those issues that drive you apart you engage each other
in places where it's easier to leave matters unsaid because that will just drive you into opposite
corner so many relationships start out with great passion they start out with great intimacy
but then they run into obstacles places that cannot yield that will not yield
and they settle for a peaceful coexistence and that's exactly what sets people up for affairs
and I've had opportunity to be involved in many Christian people that have broken marriage vows
over the years and it's not a pretty picture cultivate your relationship talk to each other
try to work things through if you can't get the help you need to do it there is nothing like
a satisfying intimacy there is nothing like a close sexual relationship to keep temptation
at bay and if you're contributing to the breakdown of that in that relationship then you take
responsibility for it and get the help that you need I was intrigued by the feedback after the
9 o'clock service one of the men came up to me and he said you know why I don't think that young
couple is going to last very long in terms of the boundaries that they're trying to establish
he said the young man is way too passive and the girl is trying to set all the limits
and I said to him you know I think you're right and that's part of our generation isn't it
the women are the ones who are unconsulate the women are the ones who want to make the family work
and the men they so often say well you know I don't want to be bothered because well men don't share
their feelings they don't open up their hearts if you're a godly man and you want to follow the
Lord Jesus Christ and you want to exercise spiritual headship in your house then you take the
responsibility and don't make your wife pay all the bills for the relationship that is not working
it's your job do it do you hear me thank you
and if you're not married if you're not married then concentrate first of all on being the kind
of man or woman that God is calling you to be there's a lie that makes it's round in all
of the world that says somehow or another if I'm not married I'm incomplete and there are people
who spend an enormous amount of time and energy desperately trying to you know the cling on to
somebody who will please love me and who will make me feel worthy well I'll tell you somebody
something some the loneliest people that I've ever met are people who have been in a bad marriage
and you're a lot better off being alone with God and walking righteously before him
than latched into some relationship that hasn't been meant for you and that isn't going to
bless you so instead of scurrying around like crazy trying to get your life from some guy or from
some girl why not concentrate on being who God is calling you to be why not develop your
character in such a way that you've got something to offer a relationship so often I've seen this
with both guys and girls they are so anxious to want what the other person has they don't bother
to ask themselves the question why do I have that anybody else would want why in the world would
anybody want to be in love with me and why would anybody want to be married to me those are so
bring questions but if we concentrate on walking before God in those places and know that our lives
and our futures are in his hands then we can trust that if marriage is part of his call on our
lives when the time is right it will happen and there's so many of us here who can testify to
the fact that when we lay it all down and we gave up that anxious searching in all the wrong
ways and all the wrong places God and the fullness of time he brings the right person
into our lives it collects and you avoid an incredible amount of pain and destruction
because you have begotten so many Ishmael's instead of waiting for God's Isaac
and what if God doesn't want you to be married that's a hard one to lay in the altar
but you know there is a gift of celibacy and if God doesn't want you to get married
he will give you the grace to find his will in that and to know that even as a single person
there are great things that you can do for God and God will give you the grace to meet those
needs in other and legitimate ways the Apostle Paul he was single Jesus was single many other people
in the history of scripture were single you're not defective because you're single it might just
be the calling on your life and if it is the calling on your life then lay it down and if God
wants you to pick it up he'll enable you to pick it up and in that way both single and married
in the body of Christ can model for the world what is healthy sexuality in a day and age when
people's minds are messed up and they experience the pain of broken relationships that are beyond
description what is needed so much is men and women both married single witted and divorced
who can in the midst of the reality of life's needs and pressures and urges
now that we can walk with God in the context of Christian community and we can walk before him
in integrity observing not only the letter but the spirit of this seventh commitment
so that by looking at us in some small way the world can be drawn to the beauty
of sexuality that is ordered in ways that honor God
and us in from my life make your way by desire to take my life with your hand
do it by me with your name till I shine for brighter then your restore in your eyes
living God come to me by your blood of sin from my life make your way by desire
to take my life with your hand do it by me with your love
till I shine for brighter then your restore in your eyes
living God